Rejection in online dating
Anyone who enters the dating world is bound to encounter rejection.
Whether your online messages to dating prospects go unanswered, you have a great first date but never hear from the person again, or you get dumped after things were just starting to heat up, all rejections have one thing in common — they really hurt.
Filter the requests and avoid any further texts from the same person.
If you want to take an extra step to ensure no hard feelings you go out of your way to be polite.
The legacy of those tribal days is that even minor rejections can destabilize our ‘need to belong’, to feel as though we’re accepted and loved by our core group.
To address this often unconscious pang, reach out to good friends or family members and try to see them in person.
You don’t want to come across as rude, or full of yourself.
You must be, otherwise you wouldn’t hurt so much, right? Here’s why: Recent studies placed people in f MRI machines (scanners that look at what happens in our brains when we’re thinking or doing something) and asked them to think about a painful and recent rejection. The same pathways in the brain became activated when people experienced a rejection as when they experienced physical pain.
In fact, the overlap was so substantial, that when researchers gave people the pain reliever Acetaminophen (Tylenol) and put them through a rejection experience, they reported feeling significantly less emotional pain than those who did not receive Tylenol.
It is one of the most awkward situations when someone proposes to you and you have to say no on an online dating website.
We all know that rejection is not very well taken as well as not very well delivered. However, that’s not how our ego works, so you have be a little more tactful than that.
And if they give you the, “It’s not you, it’s me,” speech — believe them.